Well..i've been questioning how i've been feeling...and what's going on around me in my life...so this is probably the first of my deep threads.
I know looks don't hurt, but in terms of personality, what do you guys look for?
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Well..i've been questioning how i've been feeling...and what's going on around me in my life...so this is probably the first of my deep threads.
I know looks don't hurt, but in terms of personality, what do you guys look for?
Im not sure... but I have to go with friendliness
If your confortable with them. If you can talk with them and have a conversation. If you kiss them and you guys connect. If you love being around them. If they make you feel better. If you dont have fights. If you have some level of sexual connection with them, even if its just making out.
Id say ur gf must be feminine, #1 quality. :)
I'm kinda a stickler here. I know people are gonna think i'm like stupid and shyt, but i don't care. I am religious, as you people probably know, so i look for a nice godly girl, not slutty, that is intelligent and can carry on a good convorsation, and is also not really light-headed valleygirlish. If you know what i mean.
I agree with illegal. But they can't be an eyesore either. Cus no matter who you are you know that suks. Like oh you are cool and all but god damn you are ugly. Call it shallow idc. Also they have to be kind of fun to be with. They can't be on drugs half the time. They can't be a bitch. And when you break up they won't want to kill you. Belive me i know that last one from experience.
Lol, that sucks. And yea, they have to be at least mildly appealing to the eye and have a nice body ;)
well, i cant say i really know. ive been interesting in a few completley different girls, just over the past year, and my girlfriend is totaly different from a girl who i liked a year or so back. i guess if their friendly, and we get along, i cant say i ask for much lol. oh yeah, and as long as they're easy on the eyes... dont want god zilla to be holding your hand.
a girl thats upfront yet will laugh at your jokes even if she thinks they aren't funny, have what i call "the look of lust" its just something a girl has when she really likes someone, not be obsessive (bad experience on that one), not dull but not too talkative (guys dont have much to say so they need to hear more than tell), intelligent and poetic, and i look for a woman that i can read well and tell what she's thinking or how shes feeling (which is rare in my case because i get lost in tons of signals but i like it when somethings are right)
Well I've been thinking about that lately too, as I have a similar problem... I'm gonna go to notepad and write up something meaningfull because a friend of mine asked who might try to hook me up with some friends of hers B). I'll post it here once I finish...
One thing though, with the whole personality versus looks thing. (This is only for dating... if I'm just looking to have a good night then looks are almost all that matters ;) ) They're pretty much equally important to me, but they're judged differently. Personality is pretty much on a scale of 1 to 100. There's some people who I really enjoy hanging with, and those are up in the 80s and 90s, and then there are people who just bore me who are in the 30s and 40s. Physical appearance though, is more of a yes/no question. If I find a girl attractive, then it's simply a yes. As far as dating is concerned, it doesn't really matter how attractive a girl is as long as she's attractive.
O I thought you could only pick one part of personality.
Well first of all, I think you have to know them well. Next she has to be friendly. I dont want some girl thats all bitchy and all up in you all the time. Also she has to be pretty attractive, I mean I dont want to be with some ugly ass girl. I think she has to have a strong heart and pretty intelligent. Thats what I want in a gf
i'd say something to do with my style but right now i'm debating on whether that's any good especially with a girli like but i'd sure like someone who liked video games :lol: also to have the same sense of humour as me also very laid back and kind :P (any takers i'm in england :lol: ) but personality can't be divided into a few categoris so i guess it's hard to say but when you meet the girl or guy you just know everything fits in :wub: ... hum *cough cough* hum errrr yes.... :unsure: ;) ........ :P
I kind of look for the same things deadloader does. She has to be like me and have retarded humor like i do. Of course she has to be good looking and nice and not all bitchy. Im not really the girlfriend type. I dont know why but im just not. I feel like im trying to focus on my own life and dont really want a girl who would probably end up being a bother in the end. Maybe this is just cause i am going to high school next year and i have to focus on my schoolwork.
well i must say
good sence of humor
good sex
very good sex
even better then very good sex
and just plain out very good sex
lolz
Wrote this up while my internet was inactive, from 12:30 to 4ish, and I wrote it in Notepad so ignore the horrendous spelling errors. But yeah, I had a few hours with nothing to do... I don't expect anybody to actually read all this, though if you ignore my many rants about random stuff it really isn't that long. The main reason I wrote this was because 2 friends said they'd try to find girls to hook me up with and wanted to know what kind of girl I was looking for.
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Alright, to start off I pretty much base my dating opinion based on their looks, their personality, and their friends equally. The difference is in the way I judge them. Some basic information about me: I'm 16 yeards old, I'm starting my sophmore year in Highschool (grade 11). I live in a stereotypical suburb (soccer mom's flock here) near Chiacgo (Lisle, IL) in the USA (unfortunately), I've been single for almost a year and a half. I've dated 3 girls in the past, with only one serious relationship (Two of the girls were prude, including the serious one, and the one between lasted only a week but we went out and partied, having loads of fun, almost every night. I don't really talk to any of them anymore, as most girls usually don't bother calling me anymore hahaha (No wait that's not funny... it's true).), but have never actually made out with a girl (It's really pathetic... Oh, and that I can remember anyways, it's not like I'm always sober). Lately I've been looking for a quality girl, and have had a very fucking hard time finding one.
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::How I judge::
I judge a girl's looks based on pretty much a "yes", "ok", "no", philosophy. Yes means that I find the girl anywhere from attractive upward. Ok can be seen as I don't find them the least bit repelling. Their looks don't bother me, but the girl's nothing to really look at. No means that I simply don't like the way she looks. As far as dateability is concerned, I'd be more inclined to date a "yes" girl even if her personality and friends status aren't perfect. I'd date an ok girl as long as her personality and friends status are fine, and I'd only date a no girl if her personality were something really special.
::My opinions::
Ok, so here's some basics on what I look for in a girl as far as looks are concerned...
--Physical--
-Height - Shorter than me, a couple inches at least.
-Weight - I usually like girls who are between medium and low weight, so slightly skinny.
-Build - I like girls who have a soft and small build... Though the past 2 of my 3 girlfriends have been athletes I'd prefer not.
-Breasts - I figured I'd get right to this, as it's usually a sensitive topic (You Americans are too damn conservative with sex and the human body). I'll agree with 99% of all guys and say that bigger is usually better. However, if it's more then can fit in your hand is there really a point outside of looking at them? Though I do find medium size to large breasts very attractive, smaller breasts have very rarely made me think less of a girl.
-Face - Soft, and if there are two kinds of faces, round and narrow, I'd prefer something in-between. So soft, and not too narrow but definately not a circle.
-Eyes - Blues eyes are my favorite by far. Green eyes can be sometimes really attractive and sometimes really not. Brown eyes are a medium, right above anything and everything else.
-Hair - I've always had a thing for blondes, though all my girlfriends so far have been brunettes. I don't care much for the really abnoxious blonde though, I prefer something with some strong (but not too strong) color. Brown would be my second choice, and for some reason I've never cared much for black hair.
-Ethnicity - (It's really pathetic that I even have to say this, but I am NOT racist or against inter-racial relationships. If you can't get that into your thick-skulled head don't complain and whine about it because I don't even bother listening to you.) Well with that said, the majority of girls that I find attractive are white. I have seen a few cute Asian girls (and some very hot Asian girls in the porno industry haha), but aside from that it's mostly white girls.
Skin Color - White and slightly tanned. I'm usually farily lenient on the amount of tan, and some girls look good with more while some girls look good with less
--Appareal--
-Shirts - Unlike most people with my personality, I don't 'despise' the huge name-brand "preppy" clothing chains such as Abercrombie & Fitch. Clothes are clothes, who cares? I can't really say I keep track of what I notice on girls more, as I can find many things attractive, though I do find tank-tops extremely attractive. Low-cut shirts are usually attractive, as long as they're not too low, but I don't care for the showing of the mid-riff... I just don't see any point to it. I also don't prefer flat shirts, as opposed to those shirts that have decorative fabric coming off of it. I don't really know how to describe this, but I've seen a lot of hot girls wearing that stuff. Oh, and randomly the color red jumps out at me quite a bit.
-Pants - Even though I don't wear jeans myself, they're a standard and I do like them myself. I've always had a huge thing for skirts, haha, and short-shorts can be good or bad, depending both on the girl and the shorts. Oh, and please girls, NO FUCKING HOLES IN YOUR PANT's KNEES. Some girls buy pants with ripped knees for style... they're morons, that's a HUGE turn-off.
-Jewely - Rings and necklesses usually look good, as long as they're not too obstructive. I like earrings though I usually don't care for the larger ones, especially the 'hoops'.
-Piercings - I usually don't really mind other piercings, but I don't find them attractive at all.
-Tatoos - Definately depends on the tatoo. If it's not an eyesore, if it doesn't have some meaning that's against my own personal philosophies, then it's usually alright. Aparently it's the fad among young women now to get a tatoo in their lower-back... I don't usually find that very attractive, at least, not as attractive as the same tatoo somewhere else. Despite all these conditions, the right tatoo can be very cool.
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::How I judge::
I judge a girl's friends status using pretty much the words yes and no. If a girl's friends are too "nerdy", too "punkish", too emotional, druggies, too immature, or too repelling in any other way that I see fit then it's a large downside for that girl. As long as I can stand her friends however, this section gets the ok. I also usually also won't use this section to make up for lacking in any other section, meaning that even if a girl's friends are really really cool I won't think more of it than if her friends were mildly ok.
::My opinions::
Well, I could rant here for pages and pages about the people I hate, but I won't.
As many of you know, I hate certain groups. I hate many groups actually, and even though I hate these groups I of course do not hate a person just because he or she falls into one of these groups. I have many friends who are Christian, who do drugs, who play waaay too many computer games, who spend waaay too much time on schoolwork, and who do other things that I really really don't like, hate even. Though they may be cool people however, I am usually not willing to immerse myself into a group that leans heavily towards one of these stereotypes.
People I dislike:
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-Christians (For the sake of this, extreme Christians. I'm not going to dislike a girl's friends just because they're Christian if they're not trying to rub it in my face every 5 minutes).
-Druggies (I more than likely won't date a girl who does drugs, and will have a hard time liking her friends if most of them do drugs.)
-Smokers (I more than likely won't date a girl who smokes, and will have a hard time liking her friends if most of smoke.)
-Punks (Anarchists, Anti-Government kids, people whEo dye their hair pink and wear mohawks, skateboarders, kids with 20 piercings on their face and 20 more off their face, etc.)
-Ethnic groups that stick together (Too many times have I seen Asians walking around only talking to Asians, Mexicans walking around only talking to Mexicans, Africans walking around only talking to Africans, and racists from all ethnic cultures. If you're going to do that go find your own exclusive community somewhere and hide from society there dumbasses.)
-Nerds (I don't consider nerds 'smart people', as despite popular opinion many of the smartest minds fall into other social groups. Nerds are the people who study for 5 hours before every exam, the people who care what their grade percentage is even after it's above a garunteed A (A is the highest on the grading scale for you people in different school systems, and is usually achieved by having 90% of the points in a class), the people who are so worried about their GPA being lower then a 4.0 (That's out of 4.0 at my school), the people who care waay too much about learning something that they know they won't be using in theri career or later in life, the people who think and act like they're smarter than you, and the people who go about thier life timidly and expect everything to be like it was in their high-school calculus class.)
-Geeks (Geeks are usually defined as "computer geek" or "band geek" and are usually thought to also be nerds. I however, feel that geeks are people who so completely devote their free time to one exclusive field that they begin trying to relate the rest of their life with it. A prime example of this IS "computer geeks" who walk around my high-school only talking about what they are going to do on thier little Everquest 2 characters when the get home, and the "band geeks" who constantly reminisce about the all famed Band Camp. Other groups could easily be deemed "geeks" however, and an example of this is the druggie population who's only discussion at the lunch-table is what they did last night while they were high, and who's most common brag is about the pound of Hawiian Punch that their friend just sold them for really cheap.)
-Extremists (As anybody who knows me can tell, I have many extreme point of views. Actually, if I feel either way on any certain topic then I more often then not feel very strongly about it. I will often instinctively start conflicts with anybody who has an a very strong point of view differnet than mine however, and lately that tends to be most people.)
-Americans (Though I can't honestly say I hate every American, I can say that I hate the stereotypical American, and have strong feelings against anybody who's fairly patriotic towards this hellish nation. The stereotypical American by the way, is ignorant of the global news, ownes a mini-fan and an SUV, and goes home from work/school at night to watch Survivor, American Idol, Joe Millionare, and The Simple Life. He's a sex fiend, but is outraged for his children (who happens to watch porno behind is back) when there's half of a breast shown in the half-time show of a football game. He is christian, usually from one of the lesser conservative sects, and as a result knows nothing about his beliefs except that he has faith (faith, meaning that he blindly believes what the TV, the local priest and/or zealot, and his parents have told him. The sterotypical American both loves his country and thinks it's the greatest thing every since sandwiches. Wait, sandwiches? those aren't American... ok fine, since hot dogs. Oh my god, neither are they? Fine... democracy. Invented by the greeks? Well, we don't care about the Greeks. That's right people, the stereotypical American says that this country is the greatest thing since Democracy.)
-The physicalls weak (As far as guys are concerned, I HATE the little skinny twitchy kids, they bug me. I hate any male who cannot pull his own weight, meaning he cannot do things for himself. It's a man's job to be able to support himself AND his female... how do they expect to accomplish that without even being able to support themselves?! As far as girls go however, they don't really have to by physically strong, it's not their role.)
-The mentally weak (I'll make this one short, I don't really want to go on another rant. Pretty much I believe that it's nature's job to kill you. This is how evolution works... if nature can't kill you, you'll breed, and more people of your characteristics will follow. The people who can't breed will die off, making the entire race stronger. Obviously, this is one of my beliefs that I have to tone down quite a bit. Many people find me very offensive while talking about this, and irrationally are angered at me.)
-The overly emotional (Not just the "emo kids", though I do have a deep hate for them as well. I pretty much hate anybody, males especially, who cannot handle their animal emotions. It's more understandable for a female, as she is able to rely on her male, though females who cannot handle 'any' emotions do recice quite the rant from myself.)
-Anybody I missed (There are many other groups I hate, that I don't have the time to mention, but pretty much anybody who opposes my views of honor, pride, glory, and integridy is a no-no.)
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::How I judge::
Personality is the one way I judge a girl that isn't pretty much a black and white setting. Everybody has a different personality, and when you spend a lot of time with a person it can become very important. Because of this, personality is usually the hardest way to judge a girl. I can tell whether or not I like her physical features within a few minutes, and I can usually formulate my opinions on her friends within a few hours of spending time with them, but my opinion on a girl's personality constantly changes.Though I do not weight it much more then the other two sections, it is a lot harder to be judged positively as it's not simply a yes or no answer.
::My opinions::
This is a hard one... it really is. I find many personalities charming. I don't really know if there's a way to describe what I like and what I don't like in a girl's personality. Lately, as I'm pretty much completely over my last girlfriend (though I usually wish we had never broken up, just because I'm that lonely haha (No wait that's not funny... it's true)), I haven't gotten much action in over a year, and since the prospect of dating around is losing it's appeal, I've been looking for a more serious relationship. Sure I still plan on dating many girls in my life, I want to find more then just somebody to flirt with and make out with, I want some romance. I want somebody who I know I can trust, somebody who I can rely on to help me out at times when I don't ask for it and even when I say I don't want help. I want a girl who doesn't neccisarily listen to what I say, but instead reacts to what I want and need. I want somebody who will stand by me for a long time, somebody who will actually enjoy our time together. Sure, I'll still demand some make-out time and probably some more physical action farther then that (Wish me goodluck everybody cause I'm gonna need it! haha... (No wait that's not funny... it's true)) but it won't be the focus of the relationship. Right now I'm looking on somebody with a more passive personality, who will need to rely on me yet be able to get by on her own if I'm away (or if it's before 2 in the afternoon and I haven't woken up yet). I want somebody who will both hang out with me on the side during a party just so that we would be close to eachother and let me go off on my own and mosh like hell at a local concert. I want a girl who will cherish out time together and who will know that it's safe to go off and have fun somewhere else because when we get back we'll still be together. But most of all, I want a girl who's intelligent and witty, a girl who's passive but confident when she needs to be, a girl who's playful at times but willing to snuggle later, a girl who will go out and play hockey or football with me in the afternoon and then sit down to a romantic candle-light dinner in the evening, I need a girl who needs somebody to rely on... I need a girl who needs me, because I really fucking need her...
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think about that other persones have probs to so my tip is to stay layd-back and glad and soon enough u will notice that the whole world aint about u, makes it easyer when u disslike urself
I don't see how that comments relates to this thread, mainly because I can't understand your grammar...Quote:
Originally posted by gugge@7 Minutes Ago
think about that other persones have probs to so my tip is to stay layd-back and glad and soon enough u will notice that the whole world aint about u, makes it easyer when u disslike urself
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dam i cant belive i actually read that, very good and red, yuo should become a book writer^^^
I've thought about writing stuff... but I can't sit down and concentrait on one thing for that long unless I'm REALLY passionate about it. Girls just happens to be one of those things that I'm REALLY passionate about ;) . Well, girls and everybody that I hate :lol:Quote:
Originally posted by villian@11 Minutes Ago
dam i cant belive i actually read that, very good and red, yuo should become a book writer^^^
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*cough, cough* just look at his sig :rolleyes: :lol:
I nearly lost a 3 year relationship with an older woman (i'm 15, she's 18) but I managed to salvage it. She's not OMFGHAWT, and she's not skinny- but hell no is she fat. She's mediocre in looks, a very talented artist (Drawing on tablets, and photoshop 7) and she's very sociable. Some things make her just frea kout. Like, she rarely gets sleep- and she stresses herself out. A good girlfriend doesn't stress herself out over little things. So when I jokingly say 'get to bed, young lady!' she'll fucking yell at me, it's weird O.o
But anyways, a good girlfriend can sit down with you and listen to everything you have to say- and you should do that for her as well. You don't need to be close as in distance- she's a fair distance away (About an hour and a half if I Wangan it.), but she can't be flirty in that situation. She has to tell you major details, and shouldn't hide anything, and should encourage you in whatever you try to do.
